Many of us have grown up with the idea that is best love to be loved. However, when we speak of relations of couple, it seems that this concept is accepted without objections. We love more our partner than ourselves. What aberration! It is undeniable that the teachings in cultural life are relating to sacrifice, to give, many people go through life saying: is better to give than receive, but, thats only a speech because they are resentful at the bottom of his heart, and always expect something to change, at least, gratitude or perhaps, admiration and recognition. The culture of sacrifice and resignation us has edging to many, to live relations full of pain, frustration, humiliation and indignation.
Of course, that life as a couple, includes resignations, acceptance, conflict resolution, sharing, solidarity, be attentive of the couple, take care of her, love her. It also means that we can not exceed our own boundaries in pursuit of a couple or someone else. Never, ever! Consecrate my hopes and interests so a couple can make them shredded, that is insane slaughter. Remove from your project’s personal life to give it to a couple, that far from supporting your interests you disqualifies and makes you know that you will not thrive, is a way of living a life for each other. Sacrifices and the resignation of the own esteem and personal worth are not transferable, are not negotiable. The culture of resignation leads us to settle for a mediocre and pointless life. Of course, that society and culture have endorsed this way determine the loving bonds, also reinforced by religion. These patterns are repeated from generation to generation and are a great source of suffering in the love life. According to the dictionary, the word sacrifice has to do with a sacred matter, but its connotation has deformed into patterns of behavior, such as: deprivation, renunciation and suffering.